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At some
point each of us gets touched by an unnecessary thing
called anger, but what is it really? Anger, it seems, has no personality; it is merely a unique combination of familiar emotions. It contains hurt, upset, frustration and very-very often guilt; one must defend oneself! Then; it is also a feeling of being misunderstood or at least being taken for a fool. Anger is a silly thing, reserved for those who can not correctly identify the appropriate emotion. I reckon that many confuse other emotions with anger, because they don’t know what either is. I say it again; anger is a silly thing, because it is a completely confusing thing. Nobody understands the dramatisation of anger when it takes place anyway. So, why does it play such a role in our day to day interaction with people we care for? What about agitation, could that be the instigator of the “emotion” anger? Maybe it is confrontation and the inability to deal with something that real. I guess it is when you lack the words to explain yourself; lack a way to make it go right. I say, anger is what you resort to when you haven’t got a clue of what to say about a matter. You find yourself cornered, having to defend yourself on an issue you haven’t thought through. Maybe you reacted; said something based on your values, while referencing your life experience. Let me tell you; the brain is fast and the conclusion rolls off the tongue, but don’t hurry an explanation. Now, there is one thing that can resolve this type of conflict and many others alike. It is the one thing that makes people stay friends; lovers love. It breaches complicated situations and partners with a thing called ‘care’. Your saviour here is a very simple thing I consider a friend; patience… |
| By : Thys Groesbeek |